Dating On Another Level

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Hello Beautiful People! Welcome back to the Queendom 😉

As I am journeying through my own personal dating experience, I just wanted to share my thoughts on the importance of dating intentionally. Let’s break this down Queendom style!

Terms to Remember:
1.    Intentional – Doing something on purpose/deliberately
2.    Purposeful – To be determined
3.    Dating – The act of romantically engaging with someone

Intentional Dating refers to the action of engaging with someone romantically on purpose. When you do something “on purpose” that would suggest that you meant to do it. You didn’t stumble upon it, it didn’t fall on you, and you most certainly weren’t forced to do it. See, doing something on purpose requires some level of pre-meditation. You have to think about it. Sometimes even come up with a plan of action to make sure you can execute flawlessly your intention. However, before there is pre-meditation, there’s a desire.
Desire is a strong feeling of wanting to have something or have something happen. Desire oftentimes drives your intentions. For example, if you desire a fancy car, you most likely will make intentions on making and saving money to buy that car. In this regard, your desire to have the car drove you to deliberately engage in a plan to get the car.

In the same manner, it is important to date intentionally. I’m sure you’ve heard the phrase “Go with the flow.” However, I’ve seen quite a few movies where people who “went with the flow” didn’t necessarily make it to the sequel. With so much uncertainty surrounding life and death, I don’t think it’s a good idea to purposely allow things within your control to be out of control.

To obtain and maintain the relationship you desire, you must be intentional in your purpose, planning, and your pursuit. Let me expound a bit:

1. Intentional Purpose – What is your motive for engaging with this person? Does that motive line up with your desire? (Be honest with yourself)
2. Intentional Planning – Are you just going with the flow? If you are, then maybe you failed to properly identify either your motive or your desire.
3. Intentional Pursuit – Are you a go-getter? Lack of purpose and planning can hinder your pursuit of that which you desire. If you’re being lackadaisical, then you should go back through the purpose and planning phase and BE HONEST!

Wondering how you can be intentional in your dating life? Check out my five tips to being intentional below:

· Connect with each other – In relationships, ignorance does not equal bliss. Engage spiritually, emotionally and physically.
· Have a meal together (or two) – Use this as a time to dialogue with your significant other and get great intel. Be a sponge and soak it up!
· Look for commonality – Seek out common interests that would allow you to enjoy time together doing something you both love.
· Schedule Date Nights – Date Nights are ESSENTIAL. Regardless of how long you’ve been together, NEVER STOP DATING!
· Support each other’s goals – Don’t just listen to their goals and dreams, be an accountability partner.
 
I hope that this helps you in your own personal dating experiences. If you were blessed by this post, feel free to leave a comment below. Your feedback and encouragement goes a long way. Stay prayed up and NEVER GIVE UP!
 
-Queen K
 


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